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		<title>Public Speaking Problem: Too Many Questions (From One Person)!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[As though speaking in public was not difficult enough! Just about every technical presentation ends up with the obligatory &#8220;Question &#38; Answers&#8221; opportunity for the audience at the end of the speech. There are actually three ways your presentation can go at this point in time: (1) nobody asks any questions &#8211; sorta embarrassing, but [...]
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<p>As though <a title="You Have Much To Learn Grasshopper: What The Great Communicators Can Teach Us" href="http://www.theaccidentalcommunicator.com/steve-jobs/you-have-much-to-learn-grasshopper-what-the-great-communicators-can-teach-us">speaking in public was not difficult enough</a>! Just about every technical presentation ends up with the obligatory &#8220;Question &amp; Answers&#8221; opportunity for the audience at the end of the speech. There are actually three ways your presentation can go at this point in time: (1) nobody asks any questions &#8211; sorta embarrassing, but you can live with this as you quickly wrap up and sit down, (2) people ask good questions and you provide good answers &#8211; the perfect scenario, (3) some jerk starts asking a whole bunch of questions and just won&#8217;t give up. Let&#8217;s spend some time discussing what to do about this last scenario.</p>
<p>The eternal questioner (EC) is one of the strange creatures that lives in the land of public speaking. A close relative to the <a title="What is a heckler?" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heckler">heckler</a>, the EC is in love with themselves &#8211; especially the sound of their own voice. Experience has shown that the EC is most likely to be found attending your more informal speaking events: team meetings, brainstorming sessions, etc. He/she will generally avoid the big presentations to Senior Management because there is a good chance someone would shoot him/her down at those meetings.</p>
<p><strong>Why does the EC do this?</strong> There are many reasons, but the best ones that I can come up with are as follows. The first is that the EC has a story that they want to tell. It really doesn&#8217;t matter what your presentation is about, they are going to use your Q&amp;A time to tell their story. The other reason is that they have a whole series of ideas that are just jumping around in their head and they want to spill them out for everyone to see. It really doesn&#8217;t matter what their motivation is, you&#8217;re left with a problem on your hands.</p>
<p><strong>How can you deal with an EC?</strong> When you encounter an EC the worst thing that you can do is nothing. Your audience is quickly seeing your presentation go from great to bad and if you don&#8217;t step in, then you&#8217;ll have to live with their final analysis forever. Here are four steps that you can take to deal with an EC:</p>
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<li><strong>Lose the Anger:</strong> You need to realize that the EC is not doing this because you are you. Instead, you&#8217;ve got to realize that the EC does this to everyone &#8211; it&#8217;s not personal. What this means is that the worst thing that you can do is to get angry. Don&#8217;t &#8211; realize that it&#8217;s just a distraction and lose the anger.</li>
<li><strong>Play To Your Audience:</strong> When the EC reaches a stopping point (or takes a breath!), you need to say something that will show your audience that that you are willing to treat everyone with respect. A phrase such as &#8220;Good point, let&#8217;s talk about it afterwords.&#8221; would work. Note that this probably won&#8217;t shut the EC up, but it will win you points with the rest of the audience.</li>
<li><strong>Realize That Everybody&#8217;s Got &#8216;Em:</strong> Once again, it&#8217;s not personal. Some of the greatest communicators of our time such as Jack Welsh, Suzie, Orman, Steve Jobs, etc. have had to deal with ECs. You are not alone!</li>
<li><strong>Make Sure That You Have A Wingman:</strong> In order to head events like this off at the pass, it&#8217;s always a good idea to coordinate with whomever is running the meeting and have them agree to help you out if you encounter an EC. Let them play the &#8220;heavy&#8221; once the EC starts to hit his/her stride. Have the organizer step in and tell the EC to sit down and give other audience members a chance to ask their questions. This way you still have the respect and admiration of the audience.</li>
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<p>Have you ever been in a meeting where an EC started asking questions? How long did they go on for? Did anyone try to step in and get them to stop? Where they successful? Leave a comment and let me know what you think.</p>
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