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		<title>Video: Persuade An Audience Using 3 Secrets Used By Presenters</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 28 Aug 2011 21:44:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hUB0PYL7H9U Dr. Jim Anderson investigates how a speaker can persuade an audience to take action. Dr. Anderson reveals the secrets that you can use during your next speech to get your audience to agree that there is a problem that they need to take action to fix. To get more tips and techniques for creating [...]
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<p>Dr. Jim Anderson investigates how a speaker can persuade an audience to take action.</p>
<p>Dr. Anderson reveals the secrets that you can use during your next speech to get your audience to agree that there is a problem that they need to take action to fix.</p>
<p>To get more tips and techniques for creating and delivering great speeches, sign-up for the free The Accidental Communicator newsletter at: <a title="http://goo.gl/GJ2Z1" dir="ltr" href="http://goo.gl/GJ2Z1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://goo.gl/GJ2Z1</a></p>
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		<title>How To Rig A Speech To Get The Outcome You Want Every Time</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 16 Feb 2010 04:01:23 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>You can&#8217;t always do it all by yourself. If you want to make a lasting impression on your audience, then sometimes you just <strong>gotta bring in some help</strong> to pull it off. Speakers who are ready to move up to the next level in their speaking often come to me and ask for advice. Now that they&#8217;ve gotten over their fear of speaking, they want to move on and start to <a>make more of an impact</a> with their audience. It&#8217;s time to bring out an advanced speaking skill &#8211; rigging a speech.</p>
<h2>The Setup</h2>
<p>If as a speaker you can put aside your ego long enough to admit that sometimes if you really want to make a lasting impression on your audience, then you are going to have to allow others to help you, then you&#8217;ll be <strong>half-way there</strong>.</p>
<p>An <strong>advanced speaking technique</strong> is to work with an outsider to act as a &#8220;<strong>plant</strong>&#8221; in the audience. Having somebody in the audience who you control gives you enormous power as a speaker when it comes to steering the audience&#8217;s mood and reactions.</p>
<p>The most important part of stacking the deck is to make sure that you <strong>take the time to rehearse</strong> what you want to happen with your partner in crime &#8211; these things don&#8217;t just happen by themselves.</p>
<h2>The Action</h2>
<p>When you rig a speech, you need to make sure that you&#8217;ve <strong>carefully scripted</strong> what you want to happen. The three most common uses of a plant are to generate anger, humor, and questions.</p>
<p>Having a member of your audience stand up and angrily shout something out or accuse you of something is a fantastic tool; however, it&#8217;s just about as <strong>dangerous as nitroglycerin</strong>. This is an unexpected action &#8211; your audience will not be expecting it and so it will wake them up and grab their attention. I&#8217;ve used this one when I knew that what the audience would be thinking at a certain point was directly opposite to what I was telling them. Since you knew that it was coming, you have a fantastic response ready for them, this calms your angry audience member down, and everyone else is very impressed with you. That&#8217;s exactly what I did and it took the tension out of the room.</p>
<p>Humor is difficult enough to try to do by yourself let alone with a partner, but if you can pull it off you&#8217;ll be able to make a lasting impression on your audience. As with all types of humor, <strong>timing is everything here</strong>. One of my favorite techniques is to have my plant ask a question and then we end up getting involved in a very fast back-and-forth dialog that amazes and entertains everyone. Once upon a time I answered my plant&#8217;s question by saying that something would take 1 year, they replied with 2, I said &#8220;3&#8243;, they said &#8220;4&#8243; and so on.</p>
<p>Finally, one of the worst things that a speaker can do is to wrap up a speech by asking &#8220;<strong>does anyone have any questions</strong>&#8221; and then be greeted by dead silence. This is when having a plant can save your life: have them stand up and ask an interesting or controversial question just to get things going. Since you know what they are going to ask, you can structure your speech so that your answer to that question is really part of your speech.</p>
<h2>What All Of This Means For You</h2>
<p>When you are ready to take your speaking skills up to the next level, starting to &#8220;<strong>seed</strong>&#8221; the audience with your trained agents is a great way to ensure that you are able to control how the speech will flow. These agents can control the audience&#8217;s mood: get them angry, make them laugh, or ask the questions that they are all thinking about.</p>
<p>As with all tools, the planted agent <strong>requires skill to use</strong>. You have to take the time both to structure your speech in such a way as to accommodate your plant and to rehearse what each of you is going to say before the big day. Do it right and you&#8217;ll have left your audience with a positive lasting impression.</p>
<p><strong>Under what circumstances do you think it would be a bad idea to plant someone in your audience?</strong></p>
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<h3><strong><strong>What We&#8217;ll Be Talking About Next Time</strong></strong></h3>
<p>If you could <strong>wish for just one thing</strong> before you give your next speech in public, what would it be? Sure we’d all like to be able to talk like Tony Robbins, move a crowd like Zig Ziglar, or even have a powerful story to tell like Rudy Giuliani. However, I’m willing to bet good money that after considerable thought, we’d all settle for spending our wish on making sure that <a title="" href="">there were no hecklers in the audience</a>.</p>
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<p>Just like a cheesy pick-up line, the first words that come out of your mouth when you are giving a speech will determine if you are going to get lucky with this audience. Unlike a wanna-be Casanova in a bar, you (normally) don&#8217;t have an opportunity to buy your audience a drink, so you&#8217;re going to have work extra hard to make your opening lines do all the work for you if you want to have any hope of <strong>sweeping the audience off of their feet</strong>. How are you going to score?</p>
<h2>The 4 Questions That Every Audience Asks Themselves</h2>
<p>Hopefully you&#8217;ve been given a <a>great introduction</a>. Now it&#8217;s your turn to speak. Dana LaMon who was the Toastmasters&#8217; 1982 World Champion of Public-Speaking says that as your audience awaits the start of your speech, they are sitting there asking themselves<strong> four questions</strong>:</p>
<ul>
<li>Am I going to take the time to listen to this speaker?</li>
<li>Am I going to benefit from what he / she talks about?</li>
<li>Will they say anything that is valuable that I can take and use?</li>
<li>Will anything that they say be worthwhile for me to take action on?</li>
</ul>
<p>If you <strong>waste your first few words</strong>, then I can tell you what the answers to these questions will be &#8211; and you&#8217;re not going to like it!</p>
<h2>Am I going to take the time to listen to this speaker?</h2>
<p>Aren&#8217;t those Blackberry&#8217;s and iPhones just the coolest? Today more than ever your audience has <strong>other things that they can do</strong> while you are talking if they aren&#8217;t interested in what you have to say. Let&#8217;s pretend for just a moment that today&#8217;s jaded audience starts by answering this question with a &#8220;No&#8221;. Now you&#8217;re not just trying to move them to a &#8220;yes&#8221;, instead you&#8217;ve got the doubly hard job of moving them off of &#8220;no&#8221; and over to &#8220;yes&#8221;.</p>
<p>Every speech that you give will be different, but you can lose your audience every time if you make one of the following <strong>common speaker mistakes</strong>:</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong> </strong></span><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Thanking Anybody</strong></span>: the first words out of your mouth in a speech are the equivalent of waterfront property in real estate &#8211; super valuable. Why would you waste them by saying something like &#8220;I&#8217;d like to thank the Dairy Producers Council for inviting me to talk to you today&#8230;&#8221;</li>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong> </strong></span><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Calling Out Important People In The Audience</strong></span>: I don&#8217;t care if Obama himself is sitting in the front row or your audience, wasting your opening words pointing out that you&#8217;ve got important people in the audience is just you complementing yourself and nobody really wants to hear you do that.</li>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong> </strong></span><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>A Man Walks Into A Bar&#8230;</strong></span>: Why would anyone waste an opening of a speech on an old, tired joke that has nothing to do with what they are going to be talking about? I&#8217;ve seen this happen over and over again. Even when the joke is funny, all too often it doesn&#8217;t lead anywhere &#8211; it was just a cute thing to say and then the speaker starts his / her speech and the opportunity to grab the audience&#8217;s attention has been lost forever</li>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong> </strong></span><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>The Title Of This Speech Is&#8230;</strong></span>: What? Why would I be sitting in the audience if I didn&#8217;t already know what you are going to be talking about? Also, don&#8217;t waste an opening by introducing yourself &#8220;My name is Bob Johnson and I&#8217;d like to talk to you about &#8230;&#8221; Assume that either the audience already knows this information or they just don&#8217;t care about it. Get on with the meat of what you are there to talk about</li>
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<h2>Am I going to benefit from what he / she talks about?</h2>
<p>I&#8217;m a busy guy and assuming that you have somehow gotten me to answer &#8220;yes&#8221; to the first question, you sure don&#8217;t have any guarantee that I&#8217;m going to <strong>keep listening to you</strong> &#8211; I&#8217;ve got a lot of email that I could be working my way through on my iPhone.</p>
<p>Right off the bat you are going to have to very concisely tell me <strong>why I should care about what you&#8217;re going to be talking about</strong> for the next 30 minutes or so. Whatever this speech&#8217;s purpose is, you&#8217;re going to have to keep it short &#8211; one sentence is the rule. If it&#8217;s longer than that, I&#8217;m not going to pay attention. Do this and there is a chance that you&#8217;re audience will remember what you said after you are done.</p>
<h2>Will they say anything that is valuable that I can take and use?</h2>
<p>What&#8217;s the <strong>greatest complement </strong>that a speaker can receive? Is it a standing ovation? Nope. It&#8217;s when your audience whips out a pencil and starts to take notes.</p>
<p>In every speech there are some &#8220;<strong>nuggets</strong>&#8221; that you want your audience to remember and use after you are done talking. It&#8217;s your job as a speaker to make these pieces of actionable information easy for your audience to find and remember. Saying things like &#8220;Here are three things that you might want to write down&#8230;&#8221; are a great way to motivate your audience to take notes.</p>
<h2>Will anything that they say be worthwhile for me to take action on?</h2>
<p>I&#8217;ve taken notes at a lot of speeches that I&#8217;ve attended and then I&#8217;ve gone home and <strong>filed them away</strong> somewhere and that was the end of the story. As a speaker this is exactly what you don&#8217;t want to have happen.</p>
<p>Instead, you want the information that you are passing on to be used &#8211; you really want to <strong>change people&#8217;s lives</strong>. To get your audience to take action you need to do three things: you need to tell them what you want them to do, you need to tell them why they should do it, and then you need to tell them that they can be successful in doing it.</p>
<h2>What All Of This Means For You</h2>
<p>When I&#8217;m coaching speakers who are struggling to break through to the next level in their speaking skills, we spend a lot of time working on the opening of their speech <strong>because it is so important</strong>. There are an almost unlimited number of ways that you can successfully grab an audience&#8217;s attention with your first few words. Unfortunately, there is an almost equal number of ways that you can lose them forever.</p>
<p>You&#8217;ll lose them if you spend your time thinking about yourself when you are putting your speech together. If, instead, you spend your time putting yourself <strong>in the position of your audience</strong> and making sure that you answer the questions that are running though their minds, then you&#8217;ll find the words that will grab their imagination from the get-go and you&#8217;ll be off and running with the best speech of your life.</p>
<p><strong>What&#8217;s the best opening to a speech that you&#8217;ve ever seen?</strong></p>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What We&#8217;ll Be Talking About Next Time</span></h3>
<p>Just how much speaking can you do in a single day? We spend a lot of time talking about how to prepare for and give a good speech. However, sometimes life just comes at us like a runaway truck and we find ourselves double or triple (or more) booked to speak <strong>in a single day</strong>. Oh oh, looks like we&#8217;ve got a whole new challenge here&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Speaker Alert: Make Me Laugh &#8212; Or Else</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:01:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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<p>Stop. How funny was the last speech that you gave? What &#8211; you were talking about how best to diversify a 401k basket of investments in order to incorporate more foreign exchange funds &amp; there&#8217;s nothing funny about that? Wrong. You&#8217;re not trying hard enough. <strong>Stop being not funny</strong>.</p>
<h2>Learn To Be Funny From A Politician</h2>
<p>Every speech counts. Especially if you are trying to get elected. If there was any group of speakers who needed to find a way to get people to remember them &amp; their message, it would be <strong>politicians</strong>. They have three goals every time they give a speech:</p>
<ul>
<li>Promote their policies</li>
<li> Boost their accomplishments while minimizing their opponents</li>
<li> Impress people with their moral upstanding character &amp; leadership skills</li>
</ul>
<p>Politicians know that <strong>humor is a powerful speaking tool</strong>. They use it to both make a point as well as to illustrate that point for their (or your) audience.</p>
<p>In the end, it&#8217;s all about getting votes. You&#8217;re probably not running for anything right now, but <strong>why waste a speech</strong>?</p>
<h2>Why Humor Is So Powerful When You Are Speaking</h2>
<p>Every speech that you give is your next chance to <strong>change the world</strong>. Adding humor to your speaking style isn&#8217;t something that you can put off until &#8220;sometime&#8221;, you&#8217;ve got to do it right now.</p>
<p>The reason that humor works so well comes down to <strong>five basic &#8220;levers&#8221;</strong> that every audience has. <a title="Who is Gene Perret?" href="http://www.quilldriverbooks.com/damn_funny/author_perret.htm">Gene Perret</a> who won several Emmys for his work in television has spent a lot of time researching what these levers do to an audience:</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Humor Makes You More Likable:</strong></span> I don&#8217;t care how much of a jerk you are in real life, if you start to work more humor into your speeches your audiences will start to like you better than your family does. Perret points out that it&#8217;s really hard to laugh with a person if you don&#8217;t like them &#8211; make your audience laugh and they&#8217;ll love you forever.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Build Credibility Using Humor:</strong></span> Who are you to talk to anyone about anything? Somewhat amazingly, audiences associate the ability to be funny with wisdom. When you can joke with your audience about 401k plans, they&#8217;ll settle back and say to themselves &#8220;gosh, if he can joke about this stuff then he must know it really well&#8221;. Whether or not you really do know it really doesn&#8217;t matter any more after this.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Get Respect Using Humor: </strong></span>Some of the worst speeches that I&#8217;ve ever had to sit through were ones where the speaker was too full of himself / herself. I quickly tuned them out &#8211; I don&#8217;t have time for blowhards. When you kid around with your audience you&#8217;re telling them &#8220;I&#8217;m one of you&#8221;. When they understand that you &#8220;get&#8221; them, you will have hooked them and they&#8217;ll pay attention to you for the rest of your speech.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Make People Want To Listen Using Humor:</strong></span><strong> </strong>When you say something funny, people laugh. If they&#8217;re not listening, then they miss out. Nobody likes to miss out on something that&#8217;s funny. When you work humor into your speeches and people start to laugh, then all of those other people who are busy reading email and sending text messages will start to look around and wonder what they are missing out on. Very quickly those iPhones and Blackberry&#8217;s will go away and you&#8217;ll have their attention.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Make People Remember What You Say Using Humor:</strong></span> Stay home if you are going to give a speech that nobody is going to remember. Why bother? What humor does is it creates the possibility that people will remember the joke, and if they do then there&#8217;s just a chance that they might remember what your point was that you made the joke about.</li>
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<h2>Final Thoughts</h2>
<p>Stop wasting my time. If you want to get up there and give a dry, lifeless speech that has no humor in it then you may as well stay at home and just <strong>send me an email </strong>with your main points.</p>
<p>If, however, you want me to walk away thinking that you know what you are talking about and <strong>remembering what you said</strong>, then that&#8217;s another story. The only way that that&#8217;s going to happen is if you start to work some <strong>humor</strong> into your speech. No, you don&#8217;t have to turn into a stand-up comedian; however, you do need to make me crack a smile or at least chuckle. Get me to do that and you&#8217;ve spent your time well.</p>
<p><strong>Do you think that there is any type of speech that can&#8217;t have humor added to it? (Hint: eulogies are great candidates for humor so don&#8217;t even bring that up)</strong></p>
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<p>When I come to hear you speak, no matter if it&#8217;s at a departmental project status report or at a local restaurant or even if it was at a convention, the worst thing that you can do is to <strong>waste my time</strong>. What are you going to do about this?</p>
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		<title>How Boys Can Talk To Girls (And Visa Versa)</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2009 05:00:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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<p>Man, as though giving a speech wasn&#8217;t hard enough already, then you go ahead and throw<strong> that gender thing</strong> in there and all of a sudden it gets that much tougher! It can be a challenge when you are asked to talk to an audience made up of members of the opposite gender. How can you not screw-up this speech?</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Boys Talking To Girls</span></h3>
<p>Male presenters need to adapt their speeches when they are presenting to a primarily female audience. <a title="Who is Neil Chethik?" href="http://www.neilchethik.com/">Neil Chethik</a> has a great deal of experience presenting to female audience and he points out that even in the enlightened age in which we are living, there are still <strong>differences between the sexes</strong> and a skillful presenter has to know about these differences and find ways to steer around them.</p>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>R-e-s-p-e-c-t: </strong></span>A male presenter needs to treat his female audience with respect if he wants to have any chance of the speech going well. Women are generally willing to learn from a male presenter; however, they have to feel as though they are being respected.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Down To Earth:</strong></span> A man who starts off his presentation by telling his audience how wonderful he is will instantly lose the connection with his female audience. There&#8217;s no problem with you being an expert in your area, you just don&#8217;t want to come off as being a know-it-all. You can connect with your audience by telling a story that points out a personal failing or error and a female audience will connect with you.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Evidence Counts:</strong></span> One of the biggest errors that male presenters make when they are speaking to an all female audience is that they give an emotional presentation and leave out all of the facts. Yes, women do like stories; however, they won&#8217;t believe what you are saying unless you can back it up with hard evidence &#8211; facts &amp; stats.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Humor:</strong></span> talk about a minefield! Many a good speech to a female audience has gone wrong when the male speaker tried to interject some humor. Your best best is to let the humor naturally flow from the stories that you are telling. Trying to work in one-liners can only lead to disaster.</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Girls Talking To Boys</span></h3>
<p>Yes, men have it rough when they try to address an all female audience. However, women have it <strong>at least as rough</strong> and perhaps even rougher when they are called on to present to an all male audience. Once again, there are several ways to make sure that this type of speech goes well:</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Stand Up: </strong></span>One of the simplest issues for a woman to solve when she&#8217;s addressing a male audience is to make sure that they can see her. All too often,Ã‚Â  a lectern can overwhelm a speaker and hid her from her audience. Stand on something if needed and adjust the mic so that it works correctly for your height.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>No Expression Is Good:</strong></span> Often women speakers will become flustered because no matter what they say, the expressions on their male audience won&#8217;t change. It turns out that this is very normal &#8211; men don&#8217;t tend to display their emotions.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Be A Straight Shooter:</strong></span> Whereas women tend to enjoy hearing lots of stories, men tend to be more &#8220;to the point&#8221;. Clearly communicating your main points and making sure that any stories that you do tell quickly come to the point will help to hold their attention.</li>
</ul>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Be A Professional</strong></span>: Men do a good job of dealing with other men. They will struggle with any presenter who comes off as being too &#8220;girlish&#8221;. This impression can be caused by clothing, gesture, or even a vocal tone that takes away from what you have to say. Ask a male friend that you trust for help in order to make sure that this is not a problem.</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Final Thoughts</span></h3>
<p>Giving any presentation can be a challenge. When it is complicated by the additional challenge of having one gender present to the other gender, it can get even <strong>more tricky</strong>.</p>
<p>The key to making this type of speech a success is for the presenter to <strong>acknowledge the situation</strong> and adjust the presentation to match it. Men have to make sure that they show respect to their female audience and women need to not get flustered by their male audience&#8217;s lack of outward emotions.</p>
<p>Speakers who take the time to adjust what they are going to say and how they are going to say it when addressing the opposite gender will be able to intimately connect with your audience and make an <strong>lasting impact</strong> in their lives.</p>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What We&#8217;ll Be Talking About Next Time</span></h3>
<p>Stop. How funny was the last speech that you gave? What &#8211; you were talking about how best to diversify a 401k basket of investments in order to incorporate more foreign exchange funds &amp; there&#8217;s nothing funny about that? Wrong. You&#8217;re not trying hard enough. <strong>Stop being not funny</strong>.</p>
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		<title>The Secret To Becoming An Expert In Anything</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Oct 2009 10:59:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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<p>If you forget all of the advice that you&#8217;ve ever been given about speaking, then please at least remember this: <strong>audiences come to hear experts speak</strong>. No matter how badly you stutter, lose your place, don&#8217;t make eye contact, etc. an audience will always forgive a presenter whom they believe is an expert in what he/she is talking about.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What Is An Expert?</span></h3>
<p>Great I hear you saying, but just what is an expert? It turns out that this is a pretty simple question to answer: an expert is someone who <strong>knows more about a topic than the audience does</strong>. It really is that simple.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not easy to become an expert; however, it is possible. The key to success is to transform yourself into a <strong>non-stop learning machine</strong> that is never satisfied with what you already know.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">How Can You Become An Expert?</span></h3>
<p>Shawn Doyle is a speaker who has looked into the whole &#8220;become an expert&#8221; thing and he&#8217;s found the secret. He says that the key is to <strong>get motivated and stay motivated</strong>.</p>
<p>Perhaps you thought that learning stopped when you got out of school? Sadly some people do; however, with any luck they are out there sitting in your audience. It&#8217;s really not that hard to acquire additional knowledge if you know the secret of how to do it. At the heart of knowledge is books and it turns out that, just like your mom told you all those years ago, <strong>the more you read, the smarter you&#8217;ll be.</strong></p>
<p>Are you groaning yet? Complaining that you read magazines (while you are standing in line waiting to check out at the supermarket) but you haven&#8217;t read a book in years? It turns out that the time that you spent in school was just a brief part of your overall life (hopefully) and <strong>continuing to learn</strong> is something that you need to keep doing for your entire life if you want people to show up and listen to you.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Steps To Becoming An Expert</span></h3>
<p>Another name for an expert is &#8220;<strong>learner</strong>&#8220;. If you want to find a way to work learning into your already busy schedule, then you are going to have find out how to find the knowledge that you need in order to wow your audiences. The good news is that I&#8217;m going to tell you how to do this.</p>
<p><strong>Learners read books</strong>. They might also watch TV, they might surf the web, they might do a lot of things, but most importantly they read books. Not only do they read books, they have a plan for what books they are going to read. They create a monthly list of the books that they are going to read. They add books to their list by asking other people that they know and respect what books they are reading.</p>
<p>If you are going to become a learner in order to become an expert, then you are going to have to start doing <strong>more reading</strong> than you are doing today. Here are some suggestions for how you can make this happen:</p>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Create A Reading Budget </strong></span>- you create a budget for everything else in your life, why not reading? By doing this you&#8217;ll know how much you have to spend (and when you have it to spend) when you are surfing the Amazon.com and BN.com book web sites.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Get A Library Card </strong></span>- remember the library from your childhood? Good news &#8211; it&#8217;s still there. No matter where you live, no matter how big or how small your local library is, almost all libraries have some sort of inter-library loan program that can provide you with access to just about any book that you might want. Check it out!</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Become A Sale Shopper</strong></span> &#8211; you don&#8217;t have to buy the newest books immediately when they come out. Look for the slow seasons and stock up then. Right after Christmas most books stores have great sales so that they can get rid of the extra stock that they bought for the holiday season.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Befriend Local Used Books Stores</strong></span> &#8211; when I lived in Dallas there was a bookstore called <a title="Books-A-Million is a used book store." href="http://www.booksamillion.com">Books-A-Million</a> that was huge and always seemed to have a book in the area that I was looking for. If you don&#8217;t have a local used books store then you can always make use of <a title="Half.com is Ebay's used book store." href="http://www.half.ebay.com/">half.com</a> which is Ebay&#8217;s used book store.</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Other Ways To Become An Expert</span></h3>
<p>With all that being said, reading books isn&#8217;t the ONLY way to become an expert in your selected area (although it is the best way). You can always <strong>supplement your reading</strong> by doing additional things like:</p>
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<li><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Searching The Internet</span></strong> &#8211; however, you need to remember that you can&#8217;t always trust what you find on the Internet. Verify, verify, verify.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Ask Questions Of Smart People</strong></span> &#8211; seek out people who know more about something than you do and take them out to lunch. Ask them questions and then pay attention to what they have to say.</li>
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<li><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Read The Newspaper</span></strong> &#8211; yeah, just like your parents used to do. You just might be amazed at what you find out is going on around you.</li>
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<li><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Watch DVDs</span></strong> &#8211; no, not Hollywood films, but rather instructional ones that will teach you something.</li>
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<li><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Attend Seminars</span></strong> &#8211; since you are trying to become an expert, take the time to go see other experts and learn from them &#8211; how did they get their knowledge and how do they use it.</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Final Thoughts</span></h3>
<p>One characteristic of an expert that many speakers never realize is that they are <strong>always growing, always changing</strong>. One self-help book that I read awhile back had a great way of putting it. The author suggested that we should plan on reinventing ourselves every year &#8211; sorta a you 1.0, followed by a you 2.0.</p>
<p>By doing this you will always have <strong>fresh and interesting things</strong> to tell your audiences about and they will always be interested in hearing what you have to say.</p>
<p>Make the effort to become an expert and you&#8217;ll be able to intimately connect with your audience and make an <strong>lasting impact</strong> in their lives.</p>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What We&#8217;ll Be Talking About Next Time</span></h3>
<p>The purpose of giving any speech is to be able to reach out and connect with your audience. No matter whether you are trying to inform them, entertain them, or convince them to take some action, none of this can be done unless you are able to make a connection with them. What you say is an important part of doing this, but did you know that <strong>what you wear also plays a role</strong>?</p>
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		<title>Ambush: When Experienced Speakers Develop New Public Speaking Fears</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Sep 2009 10:59:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Even the most accomplished public speakers can develop a sudden phobia about speaking in public. In order to get over this phobia, you need to recognize what kind it is and how to deal with it. These phobias can show up out of the blue and you&#8217;ll never see them coming. Judith Pearson is an [...]
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<p>Even the most accomplished public speakers can develop a <strong>sudden phobia </strong>about speaking in public. In order to get over this phobia, you need to recognize what kind it is and how to deal with it.</p>
<p>These phobias can show up out of the blue and you&#8217;ll never see them coming. <a title="Who is Judith Pearson?" href="http://www.engagethepower.com">Judith Pearson </a>is an experienced counselor who has seen this happen time after time and she&#8217;s got <strong>some suggestions</strong> on what to do if / when this happens to you.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What is a Public Speaking Phobia?</span></h3>
<p>One of the big problems that public speakers have with phobias is simply recognizing them for what they are. It turns out that a sudden fear of public speaking can hit an accomplished speaker at any time. If you find yourself with an <strong>irrational fear</strong> of speaking to a group, then you&#8217;ve got a phobia.</p>
<p>Pearson says that public speaking phobias can be broken down into one of <strong>three main categories</strong>:</p>
<ul>
<li>It&#8217;s all about me</li>
<li>Past disasters</li>
<li>Fear of making mistakes in front of an audience</li>
</ul>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The &#8220;It&#8217;s All About Me&#8221; Phobia</span></h3>
<p>In my opinion, this is the most common phobia that can hit an experienced speaker. If you develop this phobia, then all of a sudden you&#8217;ll find yourself feeling highly <strong>self-conscious</strong> when you think about speaking in public. The more you think about giving a speech, the more you&#8217;ll feel as though the audience that you&#8217;ll be talking to will be sitting there disapproving of every word that is coming out of your mouth.</p>
<p>The solution to dealing with this phobia is to sit down and have a talk with yourself. You&#8217;ll need to realize that ultimately it&#8217;s really <strong>NOT </strong>all about you. In reality, it&#8217;s the audience that matters &#8211; not you. They have come to hear you speak in order to learn &#8211; in all honesty it really doesn&#8217;t matter that you will be the one talking to them.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The &#8220;Past Disaster&#8221; Phobia</span></h3>
<p>I think that we&#8217;ve all been here before: this phobia is created by some sort of traumatic event that has occurred in your past that had an accompanying highly-charged <strong>negative emotion</strong>. A great example of this would be if something went wrong with a speech and then the event organizer yelled at you about it afterwards.</p>
<p>Once again, the right way to deal with this phobia is to sit down and have a talk with yourself. You need to find a way to make yourself understand that what has happened has happened in the past. You need to realize that it can <strong>never happen again</strong> and you need to move forward. Acknowledge what happened and convince yourself that you&#8217;ll do better in the future.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The &#8220;Fear Of Making Mistakes&#8221; Phobia</span></h3>
<p>If you have to have a phobia, then this is probably the one that you&#8217;ll want to have. The reason is that the fear of making mistakes is really the other side of the desire <strong>to do a great job</strong> at something. The phobia stops you in your tracks or makes it hard to get started because you just don&#8217;t think that you can do a good enough job at some speaking task.</p>
<p>This is the one phobia that you can actually muscle your way though. Ultimately the solution is to <strong>practice, practice, and practice</strong>. You need to get yourself to a point where you can realize that you are always going to make mistakes (we&#8217;re all human after all). However, you need to be able to observe your mistakes when you make them, make corrections, and then continue on.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Final Thoughts</span></h3>
<p>Phobias are not just for beginning speakers &#8211; they can hit any of us at anytime. The key to dealing with a public speaking phobia is to realize what it is &#8211; a <strong>irrational fear</strong>.</p>
<p>Dealing with the three most common forms of public speaking phobias requires you to sit down and think through your fears in order to put them in context. This is the best way for dealing with them. Learn to do this well and you&#8217;ll be able to intimately connect with your audience and make an <strong>lasting impact</strong> in their lives.</p>
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<p>If you forget all of the advice that you&#8217;ve ever been given about speaking, then please at least remember this: <strong>audiences come to hear experts speak</strong>. No matter how badly you stutter, lose your place, don&#8217;t make eye contact, etc. an audience will always forgive a presenter whom they believe is an expert in what he/she is talking about.</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2009 10:59:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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<p>Have you ever heard the expression &#8220;<strong>one size fits all</strong>&#8220;? I&#8217;m not sure what this phrase was invented to describe, but I can tell you that it sure wasn&#8217;t public speaking. Something that too many public speakers don&#8217;t realize is that you need to create different speeches for different size audiences. There is <strong>no such thing</strong> as the one-size-fits-all speech.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Types Of Audiences</span></h3>
<p>One of the first questions that has to be answered is just <strong>how many</strong> different size audiences are there out there? <a title="Who is Cliff Suttle?" href="http://www.cliffsuttle.com/">Cliff Suttle</a> has taken a look at this and he believes that there are four different common audience sizes:</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Conversation Size</strong></span>: an audience of up to 10 people.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Speech Size</strong></span>: an audience of 10-40 people.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Performance Size</strong></span>: an audience of 40-100 people.</li>
</ul>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Show Size</strong></span>: an audience of 100 or more people</li>
</ul>
<p>The reason that the size of your audience matters is because you need to <strong>tune your speech</strong> to meet the needs of that size audience. Just as a clown at a birthday party does different things to entertain its audience from what a comedian at a nightclub does, so to does a public speaker need to make changes to suit the size of his/her audience.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">How To Match Your Speech To Your Audience&#8217;s Size</span></h3>
<p>Once you know how large of an audience you&#8217;ll be talking to, you can adjust your speech to best match the needs of that audience. You&#8217;ll have to take a <strong>different approach</strong> for each type of audience:</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Conversation Size</strong></span>: the key to satisfying this type of audience is to NOT deliver a formal speech. Instead what you want do is to have an intimate conversation with them. You&#8217;ll need to be able to be flexible in order to adjust your speech to meet the changing moods of your audience.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Speech Size</strong></span>: the audience size is still small enough that you are going to be able to use a conversational tone, but you are going to have prepare and deliver a formal speech. Eye contact becomes very important and you need to make hand gestures in order to include everyone in you speech.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Performance Size</strong></span>: for this type of speech, taking the time to memorize your speech can be a big help because it will free you up to focus on HOW you say it. You are going to have to speed up the eye contact and not spend too much time looking at any one person. If you make your audience laugh, be sure to give the entire audience time to laugh before you start speaking again.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Show Size</strong></span>: One of the most important points about speaking to a large audience has nothing to do with your words &#8211; it&#8217;s all about self-confidence. Being confidant and taking and owning the stage are critical parts of winning a large audience over to your side. There will no longer be an opportunity to make eye contact with individuals in the audience, instead you&#8217;ll have to look at sections of the audience in such a way that they all feel as though you are looking at them individually. Your use of vocal variety becomes critical to keeping your audience engaged in your speech.</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Final Thoughts</span></h3>
<p>All too often when we are asked to give a speech we will spend all of our time thinking about the speech and not spend any time <strong>thinking about the audience</strong>. All audiences are not created the same. We need to <strong>tailor </strong>our speeches to meet the needs of the size audience that we are addressing.</p>
<p>When preparing a speech always <strong>plan for the big show</strong>. Then spend some extra time scaling it down to match your audience. This way you&#8217;ll have a back up plan if more people happen to show up.</p>
<p>Learn to do this well and you&#8217;ll be able to intimately connect with your audience and make an <strong>lasting impact</strong> in their lives.</p>
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<p>Even the most accomplished public speakers can develop a <strong>sudden phobia </strong>about speaking in public. In order to get over this phobia, you need to recognize what kind it is and how to deal with it&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Persuasion Power &#8211; How To Win Over An Audience</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2009 10:59:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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<p>Not all speeches are the same. Graduations, weddings, corporate pep-rally&#8217;s &#8211; those are all pretty straightforward. One of the most difficult types of speeches to give is one in which you have been brought in to convince an audience of something. As difficult as this type of speech is to give, if you can become good at doing it, you will seen as being a <strong>very valuable speaker</strong> indeed!</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Persuasion Starts With Small Steps</span></h3>
<p>You can assume that the audience that you&#8217;ll be speaking to will be be made up of a mix of people who <strong>already support</strong> your position, who <strong>have not make up their minds yet</strong>, and who are <strong>dead set against </strong>whatever you are going to say. Good luck with that presenter!</p>
<p>Clearly the first step in winning any audience over is for you to do your homework <strong>BEFORE </strong>you are facing the audience. One key area to research is to find out what arguments &#8220;the other side&#8221; has made. If there is a person or a group that represents &#8220;the other side&#8221;, then this is pretty straightforward. If there is not a clear &#8220;other side&#8221;, then you&#8217;re going to have to spend some time researching the flip side of what you want to persuade your audience about &#8211; because some people will have decided that that is what they want to believe.</p>
<p>One sure-fire way to start to win your audience over to your way of thinking is by using something called <strong>strategic agreement</strong>. When you do thisÃ‚Â  you agree with <em>parts</em> of the other side&#8217;s position. Automatically this will start to make the audience view you as a reasonable person. They may not completely agree with you, but they will start to warm to your view point.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Show Up Ready For A Fight</span></h3>
<p>Well, maybe that&#8217;s putting it just a little bit too harshly. How about if we say that you need to show up ready to address your <strong>audience&#8217;s objections</strong>. Whatever you have been asked to convince them about, there will be objections to it. Before you give your speech, you need to once again do your homework. In your speech you need to make sure that you address these each of these objections.</p>
<p>Sometimes we like to shy away from sticky arguments that we don&#8217;t feel that we have a good response to. However, you must be careful to not do this. It turns out that if you don&#8217;t address an objection, then your audience will assume that it is a valid objection <strong>because you didn&#8217;t talk about it</strong>.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">This Is A No Dumping Zone</span></h3>
<p>I am probably more guilty of dumping than anyone else that I know. When I&#8217;m giving a persuasive speech, I want to make sure that I get my point across. This means that I&#8217;ll do a lot of research and, if I&#8217;m not careful, I&#8217;ll &#8220;<strong>dump</strong>&#8221; all of that research on my audience during my presentation. This is a bad idea.</p>
<p>Instead, you want to do the research, pick out the points that are going to be the <strong>most important</strong> to your audience, and then cover just these few points in detail.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What It Takes To Make A Good Argument</span></h3>
<p>You would think that we&#8217;d all know this by now, but when I&#8217;m coaching speakers I keep discovering that they know <strong>WHAT </strong>they want to say to make their point, but they don&#8217;t know <strong>HOW </strong>to say it. It turns out that there is a simple formula that allows you to create a complete argument in order to support your position:</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>First: Make An Assertion</strong></span> &#8211; you&#8217;ve got to tell your audience what point you are going to be trying to convince them about. Without this, they&#8217;ll never know what you are talking about.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Next: Tell Them Why</strong></span> &#8211; this is where you need to explain to your audience why YOU think that your position is correct. This is the meat of your point and you really need to come across as convincing.</li>
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<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Finally: Show Proof </strong></span>- the fact that you believe something is great, but not enough. You need to wrap up your point by sharing evidence with your audience that will back up your position.</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Final Thoughts</span></h3>
<p>There is no doubt about it &#8211; winning people over to your way of thinking is just about the <strong>hardest type of speech to give</strong>. Ask any politician. However, it can be done. What it requires is that you do a lot of homework in order to prepare your arguments with an understanding of the facts and what your audience is currently thinking.</p>
<p>Public speaking is never an easy thing to do. Developing the skills that are needed in order to rally a crowd behind a new idea, a change in policy, or bold new idea is time well spent for a speaker. If you can do this, then you&#8217;ll have a <strong>powerful new speaking tool</strong> and you&#8217;ll be able to intimately connect with your audience and make an lasting impact in their lives.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Questions For You</span></h3>
<p>Have you ever had to give a speech where you had to persuade the audience? Did you do enough homework to prepare for the speech? Did you find out what the audience was thinking before you gave your speech? How did it turn out? Leave me a comment and let me know what you are thinking.</p>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What We&#8217;ll Be Talking About Next Time</span></h3>
<p>If you are going to go to the effort of creating and delivering a speech, doesn&#8217;t it make sense that you&#8217;d want to be able to reach your audience and somehow appeal to them? No matter if you are trying to persuade them or educate them, ultimately the goal is find a way to <strong>successfully appeal to them</strong>. Good news &#8211; how to do this has been known for the past 2,500 years!</p>
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		<title>Persuade An Audience Using 3 Secrets Used By Presenters</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2009 10:59:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
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<p>If you think about it, there are a lot of different types of speeches that we can give: <a title="Dynamic Humor: What's A Public Speaker To Do?" href="http://www.theaccidentalcommunicator.com/humor/dynamic-humor-whats-a-public-speaker-to-do">humorous</a>, <a title="How To Make A Technical Presentation Riveting" href="http://www.theaccidentalcommunicator.com/technical/how-to-make-a-technical-presentation-riveting">informative</a>, <a title="How To Present On The Worst Day Of Your Life" href="http://www.theaccidentalcommunicator.com/motivational/how-to-present-on-the-worst-day-of-your-life">motivational</a>, and of course, ones that are designed to get your audience to start thinking a particular way. Oh yeah, this last type just may be the <strong>hardest type of speech to give</strong>&#8230;</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Where Do You Start When You Want To Persuade?</span></h3>
<p>At it&#8217;s very heart, persuasion is the art of getting your audience to see the world <strong>the same way that you do</strong>. As all of us speakers know, no matter if you are talking to a graduation or a business gathering, an audience is not a single entity &#8211; it&#8217;s a lot of different people sitting out there who all have different opinions on any given topic. Your job as a speaker is to <strong>win over</strong> as many of them to your side as possible.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Pick Your Problem</span></h3>
<p><a title="Who Is John Coleman?" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/blog/AIWVXT4KHER49/ref=cm_blog_blog">John Coleman</a> is an author and a former U.S. national speech champion who knows a thing or two about how to build a speech that can persuade. Coleman points out that before you can have any hope of persuading an audience, both of you need to agree that <strong>there is a problem</strong> in the first place.</p>
<p>As obvious as this may seem, you could talk until you are blue in the face and it would all be for naught if your audience didn&#8217;t agree with you that there is a problem. In order to get your audience to agree that there is a problem that needs to be solved, you need to do <strong>three things</strong>:</p>
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<li>Isolate it &amp; limit its scope</li>
<li>Make it urgent</li>
<li>Make it significant</li>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">You Got To Keep &#8216;Em Isolated</span></h3>
<p>Have you ever heard that phrase &#8220;You can&#8217;t boil the ocean&#8221;? When it comes to persuading an audience it applies &#8211; you need to make sure that you pick a problem that you can actually do something about. <strong>Scope down</strong> a bigger problem (&#8220;world hunger&#8221;) to something that your audience can do something about (&#8220;hunger in our town&#8221;).</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Run!</span></h3>
<p>Well, don&#8217;t run but you do want to convince your audience that they need to <strong>take action</strong>. Just talking about a problem isn&#8217;t enough to cause your audience to actually agree to DO anything. Somehow you are going to have to lite a fire underneath them so that they will end up taking some action (that&#8217;s why it&#8217;s called &#8220;persuasion&#8221;!).</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">It&#8217;s Only A Problem If It&#8217;s Significant</span></h3>
<p>Assuming that you&#8217;ve been able to convince your audience that there is a problem, your next step is to make sure that you bring it home &#8211; you&#8217;ve got to <strong>relate the problem to their lives</strong>. This is going to require that you have an understanding of who your audience is so that you can describe to them how this problem is going to affect them in terms that will motivate them to take action.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Final Thoughts</span></h3>
<p>Speeches that persuade are not easy speeches to give. However, as with so many things in life &#8211; it&#8217;s the ability to do the hard things that <strong>make us more valuable</strong>. If you take the time to understand how to prepare to give an effective persuasive speech, then you&#8217;ll have a powerful new speaking tool and you&#8217;ll be able to intimately connect with your audience and make an lasting impact in their lives.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Questions For You</span></h3>
<p>Have you ever had to give a persuasive speech? Was the problem too big, too small, or just the right size? How did you convey that the problem was urgent? Did your audience come away believing that the problem related to their lives? Leave me a comment and let me know what you are thinking.</p>
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<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;">What We&#8217;ll Be Talking About Next Time</span></h3>
<p>Not all speeches are the same. Graduations, weddings, corporate pep-rally&#8217;s &#8211; those are all pretty straightforward. One of the most difficult types of speeches to give is one in which you have been brought in to convince an audience of something. As difficult as this type of speech is to give, if you can become good at doing it, you will seen as being a <strong>very valuable speaker</strong> indeed!</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">More Information</span></p>
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<li><a title="What's missing in this commercial?" href="http://coachlisab.blogspot.com/2009/03/whats-missing-in-this-commercial.html">Lisa Braithwaite has discussed how TV commercials do/don&#8217;t use persuasion.</a></li>
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<li><a title="How to Change Someone's Mind" href="http://blog.guykawasaki.com/2008/07/how-to-change-s.html">Guy Kawasaki has also spent some time talking about how to change someone&#8217;s mind.</a></li>
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