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Read A Good Book Lately? How About “Everyone Communicates Few Connect”

Tuesday, September 14th, 2010
Image Credit The secret to a giving a good speech is to connect with your audience

The secret to a giving a good speech is to connect with your audience

So I’m not sure if there is really any big payoff for taking the time to write about how to become a better speaker; however, if there is, then it’s in getting the opportunity to review new books. Oh, and I get the books for free with no obligation to give a good review – how cool is that?

The other day I received John Maxwell’s Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently book in the mail. Now I must confess that I had never heard of John Maxwell before his publisher sent me a copy of his book to review, but it turns out that he’s a former minister who has become a very successful leadership speaker and coach.

John Maxwell’s new book deals with one of the fundamental problems that we all face when giving a speech: how can we make our words count? Sure, with a little luck we can summon the courage to get up there and give the speech, but what can we do to really connect with our audience and change their lives? Maxwell thinks that he’s got the answers that we’ve been looking for…

The Problem With Speaking: You Are Wasting Your Time

The problem doesn’t lie in the words that we say, but rather in the impact that those words have on others – or don’t have. You’ve probably heard the phrase “talk is cheap” – there’s a reason that this phrase is used so much, it’s because it’s true.

If you are looking for a scientific way to determine when you’ve been successful in connecting with your next audience, sorry about that – it doesn’t exist. Maxwell points out that this is the kind of thing that a speaker will just “sense” when it happens. On the other hand, if you’re not connecting, you’ll be able to sense that also!

So in order to not waste your time, you need to connect. Just what is this connecting thing? Maxwell defines it in the following way: “Connecting is the ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them.”

The Answer Is 5 + 5

In his book, Maxwell lays out a system for any speaker to use in order to boost your ability to connect with your audience. One of the most important points that he makes right off the bat is that if you ever want to have any hope of connecting with your audience, then you’re going to have to make a fundamental shift and stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about them. What are their needs? What do they want from you?

Maxwell lays out what he calls his five “connecting principles” which are the fundamentals that you need to understand before you are going to be able to connect with an audience. These include such things as understanding that connecting requires energy and it is actually more of a skill that we can all develop instead of a talent that some have and others don’t.

The second half of his book is taken up with what is the real payoff: how to develop your ability to connect with your audience. Maxwell shares his five “connecting practices” which are explained in a way that speakers can use them to boost their ability to connect.

I won’t go into them here (buy the book, read the book!), but these practices are things that you already know, but may not be using. One that resonated with me is the “Connectors Do the Difficult Work of Keeping It Simple” practice. I know that that is important; however, it took Maxwell reminding me of it to get me to understand just how harmful it can be to your ability to connect with your audience if you overload them.

What All Of This Means For You

So I was impressed. For me, connecting with my audience is one of the most important skills that any speaker can have and to this day I keep trying to do a better job of it myself. John Maxwell’s book arrives at an important time for all of us: audience are becoming more demanding and we need to do a better job of connecting with them.

What’s been missing in the past has been instructions on how to make a connection with your audience happen. In his book, Maxwell lays out 5 connecting principles to guide us to becoming better connectors and then details 5 connecting practices for speakers to use to make this happen.

If, like me, you are looking for ways to do a better job of connecting with your audiences then John Maxwell’s new book is well worth you checking it out. Rare is the book on public speaking that can provide a reader with solid suggestions on how to become a more effective speaker. This book accomplishes this and makes it easy for the reader to become a better speaker simply by reading and putting its suggestions into practice.

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
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Question For You: How can you tell when you are really connecting with an audience?

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The Three Key Goals Of Any Presentation

Monday, May 12th, 2008

Use Presentations To Promote Understanding
Most of the time when we are asked to give a presentation, we spend a lot of time working on WHAT we want to say. Unfortunately we really should be spending more time on HOW we say it. In order to do a better job of this, it would probably be a good idea if we took a step back and spent just a moment or two thinking about what we’d like to accomplish by making this presentation.

If your goal is to get it over with, well then congrats — you will probably be successful in some fashion. However, if as long as you are going to the effort to prepare and present the info, you’d like to actually make an impact, shall we say change the world, then it would seem as though you should have some higher goals.

In his book Clear and to the Point, Stephen Kosslyn proposes that we have three goals in mind for every presentation:

  1. Connect With Your Audience: If they can’t pick out how your presentation relates to them or their lives, then they just won’t care what you are talking about.
  2. Direct and Hold Their Attention: You need to tell a story that is so compelling that they are hanging on your every word, waiting for your next revelation.
  3. Promote Understanding & Memory: How you present your information should be easy to understand and done in such a way that when you are done and the slides are put away, your audience can still remember what you said and why it all made sense.

Whew! That doesn’t seem so hard now does it? Well, it actually is quite difficult to do well. Next time we’ll spend some time talking about simple ways to start to improve your presentations so that you easily accomplish all three of these goals.